Let’s be direct.
Lately, you’ve probably been feeling that familiar, heavy oscillation. One day you’re redlining your nervous system under the crushing pressure of a deadline; the next, you’re paralysed on the sofa, staring at a pile of laundry as if it’s a complex calculus problem you can’t solve.
It is very easy to look at the mounting research, the 80% heritability rates, the dopamine receptor deficits, the structural differences in the prefrontal cortex, and decide that you are simply a passenger in a faulty vehicle.
I am here to tell you that while your biology is an explanation, it is not an excuse to abandon the steering wheel.
The Trap of ‘Biological Fatalism’
When we finally learn that our “failings” are actually neurobiological, there is a massive sense of relief. But there is also a danger: Biological Fatalism. This is the belief that because your brain is wired differently, you are incapable of change.
That is a lie. A research-backed lie, but a lie nonetheless.
Your brain possesses neuroplasticity. While you cannot “cure” your ADHD or Autism, you can build external scaffolding that makes life liveable. The “stuck” state you’re in right now isn’t a permanent feature of your existence; it is a signal that your current environment and your biology are out of alignment.
Three Direct Truths for Your Wednesday:
1. Stop waiting to ‘feel’ like doing it. The AuDHD brain rarely “feels” like starting a non-preferred task. If you wait for the dopamine hit to arrive before you start, you will be waiting until 2027. You have to learn to “pivot” through the resistance, not wait for it to vanish.
2. Forgiveness is not the same as permission. Forgive yourself for the executive dysfunction of yesterday, but do not give yourself permission to be a bystander in your own life today. You are responsible for the “scaffolding” you build to support your brain.
3. Action creates clarity; thinking creates fog. You cannot think your way out of a “stuck” state. You have to move a muscle. Change the lighting. Change the room. Put on shoes. Do the smallest, most ridiculous version of the task.
Why this matters right now
This Saturday, I’m publishing a deep-dive Signal Saturday report on the Genetic Echo, the actual math behind why your brain works this way and why your parents likely struggled with the same invisible weight.
It is heavy data. It proves that this isn’t your fault.
But I’m telling you this today so you’re ready to hear it: Knowing it’s genetic doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat the cycle. It means you finally have the map. It’s up to you to drive.
Get off the sofa. Drink some water. Do one thing.
I’m rooting for you, but I’m not going to let you stay stuck.
P.S. This Saturday’s Signal is one of the most important I’ve ever researched. I’m breaking down the Gene-Environment Correlation (rGE) - the specific biological reason why AuDHD adults often feel “stuck” even when they’re trying their hardest.