Stop trying to meditate while you are on fire.

Your rage is a data point. Treat it like one.

I am going to make a prediction.

After the “incident” on Tuesday (the spoon, the shouting, the door slam), you made a promise to yourself. You looked in the mirror, washed your face, and thought:

“Next time, I will just take a deep breath. Next time, I will count to ten. Next time, I will be more mindful.”

Stop it. You are lying to yourself.

I say this with the deepest professional respect, but you are bringing a sentient stick of incense to a forest fire.

If you read Signal Saturday, you know that your brain has a Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation (DESR) mechanism. You know that the connection between your Logic (PFC) and your Emotion (Amygdala) is structurally weak.

Trying to “mindfulness” your way out of a meltdown once it has already started is a waste of time. Once the chemical cascade hits your bloodstream, the pilot has ejected. The plane is flying itself.

So, here is the unsolicited advice you need: Stop trying to fix the explosion. Fix the fuse.

1. The “Retroactive Audit”

If you are snapping at your partner at 6:30 PM, the problem did not start at 6:29 PM.

The problem likely started at 2:00 PM.

You are treating the trigger (the spoon dropping) as the cause. The spoon is innocent. The cause was the fact that you haven’t drunk water since 9 AM, you’ve been wearing scratchy denim all day, and you sat under fluorescent lights for four hours.

The Directive: The next time you snap, do not analyse the argument. Analyse the six hours before the argument.

• Did you eat protein?

• Did you mask heavily in a meeting?

• Was the environment loud?

You will find the “sensory debt” there. That is what you fix. Not the spoon.

2. Respect “The Rumble”

There is a concept in autism support (pioneered by Brenda Smith Myles) called “The Rumble Stage.” It is the physical sensation that occurs right before the meltdown.

For me, my ears get hot. For you, it might be a tightening in the chest, or a sudden inability to process language (words start sounding like noise).

The Directive: When you feel The Rumble, you have no rights.

• You do not have the right to finish the conversation.

• You do not have the right to “just send one more email.”

• You do not have the right to be polite.

You must evacuate. Treat it like vomiting. If you felt you were about to vomit, you wouldn’t say, “I’ll just listen to this story for five more minutes.” You would leave the room.

Treat your rage with the same biological urgency.

3. Script Your Exit

The reason you don’t leave is because you don’t know what to say. You are afraid of looking rude.

So, you stay. You “push through.” And then you explode. And then you have to apologise for being a monster.

It is better to be rude for 20 minutes than to be abusive for 20 seconds.

The Directive: Memorise this script. Do not improvise.

“I am currently at neurological capacity. If I continue this conversation, I will say things I don’t mean. I am walking away to protect our relationship, not to ignore you. I will return in 20 minutes.”

The Bottom Line

Stop apologising for your biology and start accommodating it.

You are not a “bad person” with “anger issues.” You are a high-performance machine operating outside of its thermal limits.

Stop trying to meditate in the fire.

Get out of the building.

The Manual.

This week we covered the Science (Saturday), the Shame (Sunday), and the Solution (Today).

If you missed the deep dive into DESR and the Fronto-Limbic Circuit, you are operating without the instruction manual.

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